The problem lay with expectations. Behind the cupboard door in the picture, is a bag of Lund, white and mint chocolate balls. I approached the cabinet three times, and each time the MurMonster thought "Oh he has come to give me a kiss on my birthday."
Then she figured out I was after a different kind of sugar. Yet another case of unknown and unmet expectations. The buddah claimed attachment is at the heart of our suffering, I think perhaps unvoiced expectations give attachments a run for their money. To her credit she did explain to me why it had become so annoying to be sitting next to my where I keep my stash. I don't think I would have ever figured it out on my own.